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I had my first threesome with two men, while my husband watched
Peter nodded slowly, watching my face contort with pleasure. “That’s it, you can take it... good girl.”

The Secret Hotwife
Aug 2110 min read


Inside my first orgy... and why I can't wait to do it again
I suspect people outside the lifestyle imagine these weekends begin with keys in a bowl. The reality couldn't be more different.

The Secret Hotwife
Jul 108 min read


What Bridgerton Season 4 gets right about orgasms, jealousy, and living edited lives
"Why non-monogamous viewers can see themselves in Bridgerton’s most daring storylines yet..."

The Secret Hotwife
Feb 127 min read


'Are we ethical sluts?' The question Carrie Bradshaw would be asking in 2026
“Nobody marries the ‘up-the-butt’ girl!”
Yes they do, Charlotte. They really, really do...?

The Secret Hotwife
Jan 296 min read


Inside the SwingHub Christmas Ball - flirting, festivities, and grown-up fun...
“There’s no pressure on an evening like this, just lots of possibility that I personally find intoxicating...”

The Secret Hotwife
Dec 19, 20255 min read


This lifestyle showed me what men really want - and it's not 'perfection'
"I feel great, and it's not because my body is perfect. It's because I recognise that it doesn't need to be. And, at 42, that feels revolutionary..."

The Secret Hotwife
Dec 12, 20256 min read


My sex life is open. My marriage isn’t.
"While we adore exploring sexually with people, we are emotionally monogamous to each other..."

The Secret Hotwife
Dec 5, 20253 min read


What it really means to be a 'good girl' in the bedroom...
“Ohhh yes, listen to your fucking mouth on my cock… such a good girl…”

The Secret Hotwife
Nov 28, 20255 min read


Navigating four-way attraction: why couple play is the trickiest (and hottest!) non-monogamy dynamic
"Suddenly we’re in the middle of a six-way game of Guess Who..."

The Secret Hotwife
Oct 10, 20255 min read


4 realities of being a woman in the non-monogamy lifestyle
"Lifestyle ladies, tell me you haven’t rolled your eyes at the universe when your period decides to gatecrash the night before a big party..."

The Secret Hotwife
Sep 25, 20255 min read


"I panicked, I couldn’t get hard..." - the pressure and reality of sex and erections for men in the lifestyle
A candid story about panic, impotence, and erectile dysfunction in the non-monogamy lifestyle - why men can’t always get hard, and why that’s okay.
Guest blog
Sep 5, 20256 min read


7 questions every couple should ask before opening up their relationship
Ready to explore the possibility of opening up your relationship? I've got your back...

The Secret Hotwife
Aug 29, 202510 min read


I thought sex was either love or meaningless. Then I became a Hotwife.
"He was definitely younger than I thought. But then he leaned in closer, told me I was beautiful, and delivered that kiss, at which point I decided that anyone old enough to have developed moves like that was good with me..."

The Secret Hotwife
Aug 17, 20258 min read


What a year of non-monogamy really looks like - according to my camera roll
"It’s been a couple of years since I first discovered the ‘Hidden’ folder on my iPhone - and let me tell you, I’ve absolutely put it to good use since then..."

The Secret Hotwife
Aug 8, 20259 min read


"No kissing, no full-sex... yeah that didn't last long!" John and Kate spill all on their swinging lifestyle
“You’re John Lewis, aren’t you?” Those were Kate’s very first words to the man she would someday marry. They were both waiting to be...
couplegoalsuk
Jul 29, 202510 min read


Boundaries are like lingerie, they peel away the hornier you get (and that's okay!)
"Boundaries only make sense while they're upholding and supporting our wants and desires - not limiting them."

The Secret Hotwife
Jul 16, 20258 min read


Putting the 'Hot' in hot-desking: my naughtiest lunch break yet...
‘You should totally come and hot-desk at mine tomorrow...just saying.’

The Secret Hotwife
Jun 17, 20257 min read


Stags, Soft-Swaps, and Spaghetti - exploring the many kinks and dynamics that make up the 'lifestyle'
“There are as many different dynamics of swinging and non-monogamy as there are shades of lipstick; this has never been a one-size-fits-all lifestyle...”

The Secret Hotwife
Jun 6, 202514 min read


If you think my anonymity is about hiding, you're missing the point entirely...
“THIS is the real reason I hide my face, and it’s probably not why you think…”

The Secret Hotwife
May 16, 20254 min read


'Three's company..?' What it's really like joining a couple as a 'Third'
"You’re the excitement for them, the spice in the evening, their gift to each other; it’s you fulfilling a fantasy of theirs..."

The Secret Hotwife
May 10, 20259 min read
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